Lessons for Life

Matthew McConaughey Motivational Speech and Lessons For Life
Copied in its entirety from Fearless Motivation, September 27, 2017

Matthew McConaughey has lived a life of great success, a life many would dream about living. Here he shares his greatest life lessons in one of the best commencement speeches ever, at the University of Houston.

1. Life Isn’t Easy or Fair

Nothing good in life ever comes easy. Think about the last time you worked hard for a particular goal. How did it feel to finally achieve it? Don’t feel entitled to things and don’t play the victim. As Muhammad Ali said once, the service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.

Take full responsibility for what is good and bad in your life and keep moving forward. Don’t expect life to be easy. When you’re a hard worker, it doesn’t matter if life is hard.

2. “Unbelievable” is the Stupidest Word in the Dictionary

Never be too flabbergasted by anything that you fail to give credit to the person who created it. For example, Elon Musk’s plan to dig down the surface of the earth and building cascading lanes for traffic sounds “unbelievable”.

But if you look closely, there’s nothing unbelievable. It’s an exceptional feat but anything is possible with human creativity. Think about the invention of airplanes, the electric bulb, internet, virtual reality – it’s all unbelievable until you realize your own power.

3. Happiness is Different Than Joy

“If happiness is what you’re after, then you are going to be let down frequently and be unhappy much of your time. Joy, though, is something else. It’s not a choice, not a response to some result, it is a constant. Joy is “the feeling we have from doing what we are fashioned to do,” no matter the outcome.”

Happiness is a response to an external outcome – getting a raise at work, seeing the face of your newborn, or meeting an old friend after a long time. It is a conditional, an if-then thing. But joy, we feel, when we are doing something that we are meant to do. For some, it is playing sports, for others, it is building an exceptional physique.

As they say, follow your bliss. Find what you enjoy in life and do more of it. Matthew McConaughey says that when he started to enjoy the making of a movie, the deed itself, instead of treating it as a means to an end, i.e. the respect of his peers or awards, he surprisingly received more awards and more respect. In other words, when you can enjoy your craft, you’ll naturally work harder and the results will be great naturally.

4. Define Success For Yourself

“Whatever your answer is, don’t choose anything that will jeopardize your soul. Prioritize who you are, who you want to be.”

Matthew McConaughey says that we should always keep asking ourselves an important question: “What success means for me? It might be getting rich, raising a healthy family, a happy marriage, or attaining spiritual enlightenment.

“DON’T DRINK THE KOOL AID!!It tastes sweet today but it will give you cavities tomorrow. Life is not a popularity contest. Be brave, take the hill but first, answer the question, “What is my hill?”

5. Process of Elimination is the First Step to Our Identity

The first step to self-actualization, to discover who we are, is to first discover what we are not. It’s only by heading into the wrong direction and hitting a wall, people realize that they have to change their ways.

According to Matthew McConaughey,

“The first step that leads to our identity in life is usually NOT “I know who I am,” but rather “I know who I AM NOT.” Process of elimination.”

For example, sometimes you spend time with friends or colleagues who gossip a lot, complain a lot about how President Trump is ruining their lives, the dog on the street irritates them every morning, and how their spouse is the real reason they’re not making any progress at work.

When we realize that people or places make us feel unpleasant, it’s essential that we stop visiting them again. It’s essential to weed out “what you’re not” to become “what you are”.

6. DON’T LEAVE CRUMBS — and the beauty of delayed gratification

Crumbs are the choices we make today that haunt us in the future, they make us look over our shoulder. They makes us feel regret, guilt, and remorse. For example, you didn’t prepare well for the job and it breaks your spirit to see your colleague getting promoted but not you. You drank too much last night and now you fear that you will blow the presentation. Or you lied to your wife about where you are but she finds out from the text message on your phone later.

Matthew McConaughey says that instead of leaving crumbs for the future, why not plant seeds of goodness for the future. For example, you work harder than required on a project and it impresses the manager so much that they give you an even bigger opportunity.

So…let’s flip the script. Instead of creating outcomes that take FROM us, let’s create MORE outcomes that pay us BACK, fill us up, keep your fire lit, turn you ON, for the most amount of TIME in your future. These are the choices I speak of and this is the beauty of delayed gratification.” – Matthew McConaughey

7. DISSECT YOUR SUCCESSES (Gratitude Reciprocates)

According to Matthew McConaughey, the only time we stop and assess ourselves is when we fall down. We only gossip about others’ shortcomings, we only write in our diaries when we’re feeling sad.

But if we start to dissect our successes more often, we’ll find that we will have more successes. This is a lesson in gratitude. The more you thank the universe for what you have, the more you will have to thank for.

8. Make Voluntary Obligations

Society wants us to fulfill some responsibilities, to not deviate from morals and ethics, to become productive members of society. But the most important obligations are the ones we put on ourselves. Because when you deviate from your own values, it’ll be hard to go to sleep at night.

So make sure you always follow this personal protocol to have a peaceful life.

“An honest man’s pillow is his peace of mind, and when you lay down on the pillow at night, no matter who’s in our bed we ALL sleep alone. — These are your personal jiminy crickets. And there are not enough cops in the entire world to police them — It’s on YOU.” –  Matthew McConaughey

9. From Can to Want

Don’t say yes to opportunities just because you can. Say yes because you want to. Many people never leave jobs they hate because they can get promoted even though they don’t want to do the work. They’d be better off opening their own yoga studio or becoming a fitness coach, but they keep doing soulless work for money.

Say yes to what you want before it’s too late.

Consider the example of Peter Dinklage, the Lannister from Game of ThronesHe spent 6 years doing data processing, a job he hated to the core, before he finally took a low-paying acting gig. The point is that, never do things because they’re available to you, do them because you want to.

“Just because you CAN?… Nah… It’s not a good enough reason to do something. Even when it means having more, be discerning, choose it, because you WANT it, DO IT because you WANT to.” – Matthew McConaughey

10. A Roof is a Man Made Thing

“It’s because we have created a fictitious ceiling, a roof, to our expectations of ourselves, a limit — where we think it’s all too good to be true. BUT IT ISN’T. AND IT’S NOT OUR RIGHT TO SAY OR BELIEVE IT IS.” – Matthew McConaughey

We often put limitations on our abilities, our self-belief, on what we deserve. So when something beyond those limits happens to us, when we are called to interview for an influential position, when we get a chance to talk to our crush, we freeze inside and can’t control the situation.

But if we were instead focused on the experience, enJOYing the craft as discussed earlier, it wouldn’t matter. The point is to enjoy and focus on the process so much that you score a goal without making it a big deal. The goal, the “big moment” becomes just another part of the process.

11. Turn the page

We often keep running in circles in life. No matter how hard we try to change things for the better, something keeps us taking back to where we were. In this merry-go-round, what we have to realize is that we are the authors of our own story.

The mistake we make is that we believe we can’t change, change is hard, or external things are to blame. But if we realize our power, to create life on our own terms, then change will come easy. First we have to make the internal shift.

You ever get in a rut? Stuck on the merry-go-round of a bad habit? I have. You are going to make mistakes — own them, make amends, and move on. Guilt and regret kills many a man before their time. Turn the page, get off the ride. YOU are the author of the book of your life. Turn the page.”

12. Give Your Obstacles Credit

You don’t need to eliminate your fears or obstacles. Nah! Admit that they exist and then cross them anyway. When you reach the other side, you’ll realize how good you feel because you took that courageous step.

“Well, instead of denying these fears, declare them, say them out loud, admit them, give them the credit they deserve…..Find the courage to overcome them or see clearly that they are not really worth prevailing over.” – Matthew McConaughey

13. So how do we know when we cross the truth?

Matthew McConaughey takes 21-day trips by himself to get away from the noise of the world. He travels to places where nobody speaks his language and knows him by his name. These adventures serve as a purge, a cleansing ritual for him. He was tired, anxious, and confused about his newfound fame, so he went to Peru.

And on the 13th day, he “crossed the truth”.

As he was going for a walk, he turned a corner and there was this beautiful scenario – a thousand butterflies in front of him. No way further. He had an epiphany. He realized that “All I want is what I can see, and what I can see, is in front of me.” In that moment, he let go of all anxieties, guilt, anticipation and fully embraced the present moment.

To cross your own truth, you have to get away from the noise. Go away for a weekend to be with yourself and see what you find.

You see, I crossed a truth that morning. Did I find it? I don’t know, I think it found me. Why? Because I put myself in a place to be found. I put myself in a place to receive the truth.”

University of Houston Commencement Address

Anxiety Doesn’t Have to Rule Your Life

Stop living with anxiety. Learn how to live a life of full on joy!
Image by Healthline

Your life can be different, but it does take some work. Like with anything in life, anything worth having is worth fighting for. That’s what I started this blog for. To provide people with information on how to do the work and tools that might help them do the work.

It’s interesting that one of my favorite tools I’ve been using to help me deal with my anxiety shows up in yet another article – meditation. Meditation is so important for stress and anxiety because it helps to turn the mind off, even if just for a few minutes. Our conscious mind is always thinking and harassing us. With meditation we can control these thoughts. As we practice meditation more and more, it becomes easier and more effective.

The other interesting topic that’s in the article is food and eating. The more research I’ve done and continue to do, I’m finding that food is more important in our lives than certainly I initially thought. I always knew food was good for the body, but I had no idea how much it affects our minds just as much. I used to think the mind and body acted independently but, it turns out that couldn’t be further from the truth. The mind and body work hand in hand to make our lives better. When one is out of sync, so is the other. We must work to make sure both are always in sync.


Read the article at the link below.
Do You Live with Anxiety? Here Are 11 Ways to Cope
Article by Healthline

Visualize to Realize

We all know it’s true but it’s so hard to stay strong in the belief when things aren’t going as well as they could be. We’ve heard them all before:

  • We are what we think about most of the time.
  • That which you believe, you seek to prove.
  • Positive attracts positive and Negative attracts negative.
  • You reap what you sew.

Ashanti Johnson does a wonderful job explaining how she was able to fulfill her greatest dream in this video. She describes how she became very clear in what she wanted, down to the temperature and humidity in her dream gym. The clearer she got, the more doors and opportunities opened.

You have to see it and believe it. As you visualize, the key is to involve as many senses and emotions as you can so it feels like you’re actually experiencing the visualization. The subconscious can’t tell the difference between reality and thought.

You don’t have to worry about the how, just the what. When your subconscious begins to align with your conscious, things will start to happen to bring the subconscious and conscious in sync.

That which you believe, you seek to prove!

Making a Difference

Focusing on the number is good, but whether it’s one person or one million people, we must all realize that we have to start somewhere. If we can make a difference for one and that one makes a difference for someone else, it starts to grow exponentially.

by Loren Eiseley

Meditation 101

I know I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, meditation is by far the number one change I’ve made in my life that has had the biggest impact on my life. Meditation is a game changer. It puts you in a whole different state of being and thinking.

I admit, I was a skeptic in the beginning but as I did more and more research and started actually practicing meditation I became a true believer. Within a few days of meditation I began to notice a difference. I felt lighter and happier and I didn’t get upset or anxious as quickly as I used to. Although, I am practicing meditation regularly, I am still always questioning whether I’m doing it correctly or whether I could do things differently. That’s how I ran across this three part video series. It explains how to meditate in a step by step method. It even tells you what to do if you get an itch, experience pain, or anything else while meditating that may distract you.

The one big question I’ve always had that was answered in the video series is, what do I think about while I’m meditating or do I think about anything. The videos do a great job of answering these types of questions. The videos are done very well. The amount of information per video is exactly right. They provide enough detail without getting too long. I highly recommend watching. I believe all of your questions will be answered.


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Living Life Pain Free

Life Designs 783

As we all know or at least have heard before, everything we see and touch is made of energy and everything vibrates, and I do mean everything. This includes the earth itself. Its frequency is 7.83 Hz.  As beings on this earth, we should vibrate at the same frequency to maintain optimal health, mentally/emotionally and physically. When we are out of sync with this frequency, we start to experience physical pain and various ailments. We also struggle with emotional anxiety and stress.

The primary focus of this blog is to educate people on how to get back to this frequency and maintain it, even in those tough times. As you have probably read many times on the blog, I’m a strong believer in meditation to stay at peak performance and frequency. Another tool I strongly believe in is jewelry imprinted with 7.83Hz and that’s where Life Designs comes in.
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Leatherette Journal

Very nice journal for basic journaling. It’s very well made with stitching around the edges to add to the look of quality. It comes in multiple colors and sizes. I picked mine up from my local grocery store, but you can find them on Amazon also.

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  • Journal measures 5.13” x 8.23”

Journaling Pens

These are excellent pens and that’s why I’m recommending them. I use them myself and couldn’t be happier. The colors are vibrant as described below and they don’t bleed through the pages and dry fast. I change colors each day just so each page is different, but you could do a color per thought or alternate on a goals list. I give these a five star rating.

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Visualization and Clarity – The Secret to Achieving Your Dreams

Do you have a dream? Do you have a goal you want to achieve? If you do, then this video is for you. This video does an amazing job of laying out what it takes to fulfill your dreams and achieve any goal. Ashanti is a fantastic presenter. She’s light and lively and you can feel her passion for helping people fulfill their dreams just like she did. In the video she describes the target for reaching your goals. The image below is my interpretation of what she was describing.

The first step is to visualize your dream. What do you want. Then you add clarity to it. Be as clear as you possibly can, from the smell of the room, the people around you, to the time of day. You must provide as much clarity as you can so your brain can’t tell imagination from reality. What your brain imagines, so shall it be. Finally, you must surround the vision with positive energy. You must KNOW you’re going to have it or achieve it. You must live like you already have it or have achieved it.

This quote is why you must surround your dream and life in general with positive energy. “You become what you think about most of the time.” Think negative and you’ll receive negative. Think positive and you’ll receive positive.

Energy Out = Energy In

Meditation Fights Colds and Flu, According to Science

Meditation Fights Colds and Flu, According to Science
Lower stress to live a healthier life

Of all the things I tell people who are trying to live a better life and become more fulfilled, meditation is always the first thing I suggest. For me, meditation has been a game changer. Forget all the research and articles that have been written on meditation. For me the proof is in the changes that I have personally experienced. What’s odd is that it was from day one. I was astonished how quickly things changed after the first day of meditation. Then it just got better from there.

I’m not saying meditation is all you need, but it does make researching and learning other wellness practices much easier and more effective because you are in a mindset that allows what you’re learning easier to accept and see faster results.

Note: As you read the article, please remember they never say don’t get a flu shot.

Read the full article.

Courtesy of myfitnesspal Blog, by Jodi Helmer