The Fab Five – Do You Have Your Winning Team?

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
Jim Rohn

Here is your Fab Five List:

  • Cheerleader
  • Mentor
  • Coach
  • Friend
  • Peer

Your cheerleader is the one who believes in you, even when you don’t believe in yourself.
Your mentor is the person constantly in your life to point you in the right direction. Not to be confused with cyber-mentors. They provide you with lots of information, but not necessarily clear direction.
Your coach is the one that makes you uncomfortable but pushes you to your maximum potential. They make you uncomfortable because they push you out of your comfort zone.
Your friend is the one person that knows your hearts truest desires.
Your peer is the one that helps you out in social situations.

I swear I could watch Stacey all day long. Her energy is infectious. I got so excited listening to her that I was ready to take on the world when she was done. She starts the video with a story about her Beyonce experience and I was captivated the entire time. Her transition into her Ted talk from the Beyonce story was fantastic. I’m writing this message while watching the video a second time. I will probably watch it a third time. Not just because I like listening to her, but also because her message is so insightful.

This is a must watch. I would definitely recommend it.

Morning Routine – The Secret to a Productive Day

The heading is a true fact! The way you start your day dictates the rest of your day. When you wake in the morning, the first thing you should do is pause for a moment and reflect on all the things you have to be grateful for. Having a hard time thinking of something to be grateful for, then just be grateful you’re alive because you get the opportunity to do things different today. YOU get the chance to do something to be grateful for tomorrow.

So many people start their day off in a reactive, anxious mode, and it causes the entire rest of the day to be less productive, less efficient, and less impactful than it should be. That’s why today we’re going to talk about having a kick-ass morning routine.

Of course, the real deal is this: your morning routine actually starts the night before. In particular, it starts when you decide to make sure to get enough sleep. Everyone has a slightly different need for sleep, but the basic rule is this:

Go to bed early enough that you don’t need to set an alarm clock.

Mastering this basic principle, if you haven’t already, will transform your life. When you can wake up exactly when your mind and body are ready, it means that you are already optimizing your cognitive abilities and making it much more likely that your day will be productive instead of reactive.

Also, the night before is when you should make your list of priorities for the next day. Don’t wait until the morning to make that list. It should be there waiting for you when you wake up. And forcing yourself to make that list the night before will help you sleep better, because your mind won’t be still trying to remember all the things it has to do the next day.

Better sleep will absolutely lead to a better morning.

Do you go to the gym first thing in the morning? In that case, lay out your gym clothes right next to your bed. Is yoga the first thing you do? Then lay out your mat where it is so accessible that you’d have to make an intentional choice to avoid it. Is the first item on your list of priorities what you are going to start with? In that case, lay out whatever tools you need so that they are right there waiting for you when you wake up.

See, the whole key to having a kick-ass morning is how you set it up the night before. It doesn’t matter as much which order you do things like meditate or exercise. What matters is that you have a clear routine and that you set yourself up for success the night before.

So when you wake up, get up within ten minutes. Never start your day in reactive mode. In other words, no starting the day by checking email or social media. Start with a cold shower, or physical exercise or some form of meditation or yoga.

Then, attack your list of priorities.

When you focus on getting your morning routine set up the night before, it makes it easy to start the day off right. When you can exercise, meditate, think well, work well and create well, you have won for the day. Win enough days, and it adds up to a truly impactful life.

Be Legendary,

The Impact Theory Team

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The Cup of Coffee that Changed His Life

A very awesome friend of mine shared this video with me and it really resonated with me. It resonated with me because I like to think this is how I choose to live my life. I live my life working hard at showing up at my best. Not necessarily at doing stuff, but at choosing to be happy and helpful. As Ryan says in the video, he was heavy in the heart and Lilly had no way of knowing it, but because she showed up, she made him feel better. To think, all she did was show him kindness. The sad part is, he was taken aback by her kindness at first. Why is that we are shocked when people are kind to us? There was a time when we were shocked when people were rude?

Smiles are like sneezes and yawns, once one person starts, we all just jump right in line and start doing the same. The real cool thing is, when you do catch the bug and you smile back, you feel like the weight on your shoulders just got a little lighter. What’s even crazier, when you start the chain and you make it a point to make someone else happier, the weight gets even lighter.

I’ll leave you with this to think about. I wear these silicone wrist bands with motivational messages on them and one of them says, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Pretty awesome, right?! How are you showing up?

Thanks MC for caring enough for us, to send us this video. You’re the best!!

Failure is just an event, not a characteristic

This was another great interview. Her energy and likability reminds me of Rachel Hollis. It’s an interesting thing. There are certain people that you just seem to gravitate too. They have this aura about them that seems to draw you in. Well, that’s Marie Forleo. Her likability is through the roof. You immediately lock into what’s she’s saying and hang onto her every word.

The premise of the interview is just as the title suggests and that’s, don’t ever give up. Everything is figureoutable. You can do anything. Marie believes this quote is the master key to life. With these three words, you can get through any challenge put in front of you and become whoever you want to be. It may not happen overnight, but it will happen. With that said, I’ll share a quote with you. Although, it isn’t a quote she used, I think it is appropriate. It’s a quote by Michael Strahan, “You may not get what you want when you want it, but you will get it when you’re supposed to.” Wow, that’s really good.

Sorry, I digressed. As I was saying, this is another amazing interview. You’ll walk away from it feeling unstoppable. You’ll feel strong and confident. You will believe in yourself and that you can do anything!

Marie’s Three Simple Rules

  1. All problems or dreams are figureoutable
  2. If a problem isn’t figureoutable, it’s not a problem, it’s a fact of life.
  3. You may not care enough to solve this particular problem or reach that particular dream and that’s okay.

Amazing quotes by Marie

  • Everything is Figureoutable (Also her latest book).
  • Clarity comes from engagement, not thought.
  • You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to get it going.
  • If you argue for your limitations, you get to keep them.

Feeling Anxious? Try This Science-Based Technique to Quiet the Negative Voice in Your Head

Harvard researchers reveal the strange, reverse, logic of anxiety. Here’s how you can use this insight to transform your experience of fear, worry, and anxiety.

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When it comes to anxiety, we’ve got everything backwards.

Just consider the last time you felt a wave of raw fear minutes before a big presentation or a difficult conversation. If you’re like most people, your first instinct was to say to yourself, “Stop freaking out. Calm down.”

And yet, according to Harvard Business School professor Allison Wood Brooks, this is exactly the wrong thing to do. Her research shows that shifting from anxiety, a negative state of high arousal, to calm, a positive state of low arousal, is both extremely difficult and counterproductive more…

The Greatest You

by Trent Shelton

I haven’t read the book yet, but it is very high on the list of books to read. I was mesmerized by him during the interview. He was very energetic and so believable. You could tell he spoke from a place of truth.

See interview with Trent Shelton and Tom Bilyeu here.

You must face your fears because on the other side is strength and growth.

Pushing Through Fear and Discomfort Using Leverage Questions

I just watched this video again to pull some nugget highlights out and it reminded me how much I love Trent Shelton and this interview. This interview is packed full of great information. The preview of the interview sums it up so well. Trent shares his feelings towards fear and how you must face your fears because on the other side is strength and growth. That is my new mantra. When I know I should do something at work but I keep procrastinating, I ask myself why and if it’s because I’m scared, I get up right then and I go do it. That’s the only way I’ll get past it. After a while it will become comfortable and I’ll just do those things.

Here is how Trent explains it in the interview. Fear is creating a known result before you experience something and if that’s the case then I need to create something better on the other side of that experience. If you haven’t experienced it yet, then it is still a thought, not a memory, so you can CHOOSE what you want the result to be. Trent also uses leverage questions to get himself and others to do things. He uses the leverage questions to help him confront fears by putting into question his negative thoughts. Helping him to realize they are just thoughts and realizing positive thoughts producing positive results are just as true, if not truer, then negative thoughts producing negative results.

This final thought should be put on a T-shirt. I’m paraphrasing a bit and putting it in my own words, but this is what I understand. Your life story will not be one chapter long. It’s going to be multiple chapters so you can’t let a few failures…learning moments define who you are. In another interview I will share with you later, Jason Mayden says it like this, there is no failure only learning opportunities.

I hope you enjoy this one as much as I did. Trent is very wise beyond his years and is full of great insight. He also has a book out that I would suggest reading.

No One Can Want it More Than YOU

I know the title of the video says one thing, but this is about owning it. It’s about owning who YOU want to be and doing something about it. One of the best examples I can think of, this one particular day I was complaining about being overweight like I had been for some time. It was almost a daily mantra for me. We were leaving out of Starbucks by the office and it was a group of us and I said it again, “Man, I have got to lose some weight.” That’s when my friend said, “You say that s$#t everyday, why don’t you stop b!7@hing about it and do something.” That’s when everything changed. I changed my eating habits, I started working out – hard, and I started working on my mindset.

No one can want it more than YOU. YOU have to be the change maker, no one else. You have to take ownership of who and what you want to be. Until then, NOTHING will change. You will continue to be the same person you’ve always been. You have to get angry. It’s not until you get angry that anything is going to change. Angry at yourself. So much so that you will yourself into change. I don’t know who said it, but one of my favorite quotes goes something like this, “Life is very simple, but it isn’t easy.” Life is simple. You know what to do. It’s getting yourself to do it that’s the sucky part.

This has to be one of my favorites. I think I’ve watched it about three or four times. I love the way Rachel presents. It feels like a friend is talking to me, not someone yelling at me making me feel worse. She also makes it sound doable, like hey, I can do this. She also provides really good examples and how to’s on how to get organized and get this stuff done. I think you’ll like it too. She also has a couple books out that you may enjoy as well. I’ll put those under the Reading List Category.

Starting a Habit the Easy Way

Looking to start a new habit but not sure how or you don’t have much success at starting new habits? Then this video is for you. The presenter does a great job of presenting the information in easy to understand and humorous way. He breaks it down to the lowest level so it’s easy to understand and follow. He uses lots of graphics and examples, which also make it easy to understand.

The secret to starting a new habit is to start off small. Don’t try to eat the whole elephant in one bite. Don’t try to walk five miles on your first attempt to get back into shape. Maybe do a couple jumping jacks at first to get the habit to stick and then work your way up to running a marathon. Make the task uber easy and then you’ll most likely stick with it. Make it two hard and it will take too much effort to keep going.

Start a new habit that sticks.